Most Relationships end due to some causes that could be avoided; if known. For one who imagines a perfect relationship in his/her mind, its best to be familiar with these causes and then know know they could be avoided or in any case, resolved. For the benefit of Lovers in the House, I made a List of these common Relationship-killers, and how they could be avoided. Truth is, there is no such thing as a 'Perfect Relationship'; there comes fight once in a while but the person who knows these causes is better armed at taming it to avoid unnecessary 'break-ups'. Here are common causes and how to (hopefully) avoid them.
1) Being unfaithful (a.k.a. CHEATING).
This is the most disgusting and unforgivable offense, in my opinion. Traditionally thought of as happening when a guy can't keep his pants on, more and more women are having trouble having the human decency to be loyal to the ones they love. It's revolting to me when a person is so consumed by the basic animal side that they can't resist going out and doing something stupid. It's very simple: don't cheat on your partner. If you love your partner at all, you love him or her too much to cause that kind of heartache...and trust me, they ALWAYS find out.
2) Being demanding and controlling.
Everybody's probably seen at least one comedy movie where a happy-go-lucky guy is assaulted by his ogre of a woman, who can't seem to let go of the leash long enough for him to walk into the kitchen. Sure, silly facial expressions and overemphasized gestures make you laugh, but inside you know there's a part of you that's thinking "I'm so glad that's not ME getting a phone call every 10 minutes asking where I am." Well, don't make your partner that person...if boys and girls can't get along and trust each other, there's not much point in even having a relationship at all. Have a little trust.
3) Not providing the emotional support your partner needs.
I know, it's another movie cliche, this one usually in "chick flicks." We've grown so used to seeing it in movies that we often don't recognize it happening in real life or understand its impact on those we love. Having the love of your life not seem to really care about how you feel is a horrible thing that can cripple self-esteem in some people and really set others off. This can mostly be avoided just by listening to your partner, truly listening. Both guys and ladies need to feel like they matter to their partners, so don't let down the one you care about.
4) Letting fights get out of their role.
Whenever two people are stuck together for extended periods of time, even if those people love each other desperately and passionately, there are going to be clashes where one person feels one way and the other a different way...that's life, that's relationships. It can even be healthy to clear the air sometimes, but when you let a fight expand outside the boundary of being helpful, it starts really harming your relationship. Don't just shrug off your partner's concerns, but don't take fights too seriously either. Oh, and a tip for making fights a little less impactful: give in every now and again. ;)
5) Lack of "zest" in a relationship.
I'm not talking about craziness in the bedroom here, I'm talking about enjoying each other and the time you spend together, keeping things active and loving your lives together. Boredom and lack of spontaneity is a deadly threat to relationships that's been on the uptrend lately, and nothing makes me sadder than when I hear of a couple that was beautiful for each other and loved each other deeply just kind of dissolving because there wasn't much there anymore. Stay creative with your love, and make every day you're with your partner as much of a blessing as it should be.
6) The past.
It's really tempting to pick a fight over the past. Maybe you had unresolved fights. Maybe one (or both) of you cheated. Maybe there are issues with an ex. To avoid this ugly fight, remember the past is unchangeable. In order to move toward the future, you have to let the past go. I mean, really let it go.
7)Jealousy.
The green-eyed monster is one of the more common relationship pitfalls. Maybe you're jealous that your man (or woman) was flirting with a school mate. Or that cute hostel mate. Or the bartender. Jealousy is normal, but also easily avoidable. Remind yourself that your partner is with you because he or she wants to be -- not because he or she has to be.
8) Sex.
Often in a relationship, one partner wants to have sex more often than the other. This can lead to all kinds of relationship fights if you're not careful. If sex is a common relationship fight for you, you may want to sit down and examine the underlying issues.
9)Communication.
Most fights (relationship or otherwise) are caused by a breakdown in communication. Effective relationships involve effective communication -- which can be hard. So sit back and listen -- really LISTEN -- to what your partner is saying, acknowledge his or her feelings, and work together to be more effective communicators
10)Money.
The most common relationship fights are about money. How it's spent. How much you have. How "responsible" you are with it. Finances put a major strain on most relationships. You can prevent (some) of these spats by being upfront about money and making sure you're both working toward the same goals.
Well now you've been versed in the basic Ten Deadly Relationship Killers. Any one of these can really cripple your relationship, and even the person you share it with...so in the name of anything you consider holy, avoid hurting the one you love by keeping these things from ever having a chance to destroy your relationship. With a little bit of trust, care, and decency, your biggest threats can be absolutely nothing.
Next time one of these situations threatens to pop up, stop and ask yourself if whatever outburst or lapse you're considering giving in to is worth the hurt and loneliness it could easily bring to both of you. If you like being miserable and alone, and wish the same on the one you love...go right ahead. If not...well, the choice is pretty obvious...isn't it?
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